I was recently given a compliment by one of my dear friends. She complimented me on my new hairstyle and earrings I was wearing.
I thanked her, but then began saying, “you really think so? My hair needs a bit of a wash!” What?? Why did I even say that? Although we laughed about it, it got me thinking.
I realised I love complimenting other women. I do it regularly. It could be from the dress they are wearing, to their bag. I once complimented a lady on her boots in the TK Maxx line! And if I can, I’ll even ask them where they got their said item.
So why is it then I can so easily compliment family, friends and even complete strangers, which I enjoy doing. But find it so hard to accept it?
Most of my friends are mums just like myself, some who I’ve known since my childhood. We try to uplift each other, give mummy advice and praise one another when one has succeeded.
But as a mum, somewhere along the line I kinda lost my identity as it were. I had always taken pride in my appearance, but some days I’m in such a rush to get out the door, I grab the first things that come to hand. And possibly I got used to the “everyday mum uniform” and forgot how to accept a compliment.
Now this has come to the forefront, I realise that I need to be more confident and sure within myself, smile and accept the compliment. I understand this is a work in progress and this won’t just happen overnight, but this is something I feel I can improve on and hopefully succeed in.
Have you ever experienced feeling this way? Is there something you are struggling on and need improvement?
J x
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